Well i’m sure there might be a few people clicked on the link to this page just thinking that they were going to get some free porn. Well sorry to disappoint!
This is about an article in The Daily Telegraph: ‘How porn is rewiring our brains’.
It’s well worth a read, especially for young people or those with children who need to have ‘that talk’.
One thing that i do object to is why The Daily Telegraph put it in the ‘Thinking Man’ section. Isn’t this just as applicable to women as men? In fact the whole article is rather biased towards men being the only half of our species to be susceptible to having our brains rewired by dopamine hits brought on by pornography. This is simply untrue.
That aside, i do think it rather sad these days that for a lot of young people, boys and girls, that their sex education comes through watching hard core pornography. Boys and young men thinking that they have to ejaculate over their girlfriends faces to make a sex act valid, but also girls and young women thinking that a normal penis is at least 7 inches long and should be able to achieve and maintain an erection at will. Sorry kids, but that ain’t the way it is — or should be.
From my perspective, i think that when you get together with a new partner you should have a nice talk about what you’re into sexually. Sit down, relax, and discuss. And if you feel embarrassed about that and not able to have a frank and honest conversation about your most intimate sexual desires with your new partner, then might i suggest that you’re simply not mature enough to be having sex in the first place?
So many people are so hung up about talking about sex with their partners — that’s the real problem that the article above doesn’t address at all. I have no problem admitting what i do and don’t like sexually to anyone i’m hoping to have sex with. After all, i don’t want a sexual relationship with someone who doesn’t want the same things sexually as i do, so it makes sense to discuss these things at the beginning with a new partner.
Now if people were more open about discussing these things with their partners then the points the article raises wouldn’t ever occur.
But then, i suppose, one thing that is probably missing in hard core pornography is the conversation. The actors and actresses (if you can call them that) just do their job and the woman has the man ejaculate on her face and that’s the end. But real life isn’t like that. Real people aren’t like that. Real sex isn’t like that. At least i don’t think it should be.
But one thing i do like about the current porn situation is that it’s making people discuss sex (a taboo subject previously) and what it should mean, what should or shouldn’t be involved, and who should make those choices. Sure the world isn’t as innocent and sweet as when i was young, it’s a lot more open and sex isn’t something to be hidden away and not discussed any more.
Maybe instead of giving children the occasional sex education lesson in schools — which most don’t take seriously — schools should have ‘relationship’ education for at least one lesson a week. This could cover a lot more things than just sex. Sex is only one small aspect of relationships, but a lot of people’s attitudes towards relationships are being overwhelmingly fed and controlled by their attitudes to sex when it should be the other way around. And i do feel that it is important to teach children about relating to the world around them and the people in it properly, when they have that bit sorted out they’ll have the sex bit sorted out too. The world for children is huge compared to what it was for my generation. It’s all over the internet, on their phones, feeding their apps, and addicting them to their x-box: it affects everything in their lives.